Once upon a time, long long back, thousand years ago, there lived a wise king with many of his queens :).
The king was very wise and known for his wisdom and goodwill and had acquired great deal of wealth.
One day at the supper one of the queens inquired, “My Lord! who is the Continue reading
If life gives you lemons, oh pity lemons. I pity lemon for being the subject of continuous assault by the corporate world which made lemons so infamous indeed 🙂 and making it indeed a  fruit portraying low esteem and low value despite its nutritional and medicinal values.
Said that basically the phrase “When life gives you lemon make lemonade out of it” implies that you were expecting something other than lemon, may be apples. Also the sour taste of lemon makes it a victim.
If, ifs and Ands were pots and pans there would have been no need for tinkers hand.
If there is Life, there is a struggle and if we get oranges and lemons then only we realize the value of sweeter side of our life. Nothing is more fulfilling than the sense of achievement doesn’t matter whether you squeeze the lemons or oranges or sell them.
So life will keep on giving oranges and lemons we need to
1-Add more oranges and give it back to the person.
2-Sell them considering they are diamonds.
3-Make it someone else’s oranges, or look for associating more people with some common area of concern. So now basically it will be a global problem and they everyone needs to look for a solution.
4-Look for ways to bartering it.
So essentially there is no need to worry for lemons and oranges it’s just the way you handle situations and there are no coaching for it, life is the best teacher and it will make you learn what you need to do with your lemons.
Enjoy and lots of love and hugs to all.
A few days back my 6 year old insisted to join me for the morning prayers. She would get up take a bath and join me for the morning prayers.
Whilst I did my usual daily prayers and thanked Lord for whatever he has given me. She would repeat word by word after me and to end with she added
“Thank you God for giving us the beautiful world.”
She repeated it again and this time she added, “Hey Daddy ! Why don’t you repeat the last line after me.”
Her prayers were real and full of truth and innocence, she was not asking anything but thankful for what God has given us.
That day my daughter taught me very important aspects of life:
Let’s start to stop worrying about petty stuff and be thankful to the Almighty for all that you have been blessed with.
So how do you decide whether it’s yes or no, right or wrong or good or bad?
How the pilot decides whether it’s good to land or hover.
Coming from a software background I would share that in IT paradigm we have a GO/NO Go decision. This means whether we plan to go live or not with a product release. So how does one conclude with the decision?
In software product releases we take the help of some stats, pass rate of tests help to decide on the stability and there are certain must have features governed beforehand which must be working ( MoSCoW model is used here which means Must have, should have and would have).
Then on top of it there is always a presence of experience and the GUT feeling of the managers the stakeholders and the client when they sit and decide whether it’s good to go live or call off the release.
It relates to our own personal self also, when we need to take decisions we have our own stats and supporting facts and figures. These help us to decide and draw a fine line between good and bad and whether we go for it or not and narrow our circle of doubts. There is always the gut feeling which one gains using his experience, this is called wisdom and it can never be taught or coached, one has to earn it.
Let me confess this is easier said than done and even the most experience tumbles at time in choosing and deciding, follow and listen to your inner self and moral values too, it will help too.
A few lines before I wrap it up:
When I start my journey to success, I find several roads leading to thee,
Then I land on a crossing, with confusion breeding on me.
Wise men advise, thou take this way or this one, but let me tell you my son,
Take a route and stick to it, thou shall find your destination.
This is my take on How are you more likely to make an important decision, let me know yours.
It was Friday, a weekend, I had a many commitments on hand to accomplish.
In no means I wanted to have a bad day ( because of Friday and a weekend) however because the fixtures of the day meant a lot to I and I had worked day and night for this day.
I left for office and the car stereo played Another Brick On the Wall – an amazing Pink Floyd number which I love for their guitar work.
I had an hour to go for the meeting, it takes me approx 15 min to reach work, so an hour’s time was well enough to go ahead and plan my day.
The conference was well ahead the start of the business and people around the globe were to dial in, it was organized by me and the who’s who from my client was involved. It was considered rude if I was unable to make up for the call.
We can only plan, but we cannot plan unplanned activities, at times plan B doesn’t work at all.
As I steered I ended up in a log jam and a traffic mess, and the clock started to tick like a time bomb.
This song turned out to be an omen for me, I won’t play it again.
I had 45 minutes in hand, and things seemed worse, there was indeed a lot of speculation in my mind, do I leave my car and in the mess, do I call or send a cancellation?
I waited in the log jam, took a deep breath and decided lets steer, if I clear the 600m in next 30 mins then still I will be able to make it.
I finally made it to office and started to line up the meeting, to my surprise an email popped up with one of the board of directors saying to reschedule it, and I was like Argghh….
I was not rushing hitherto to get it postponed, however I thought I could drive it and change directions.
I called him up to explain that I had managed to get the time of many on board and it would again take another decade to line up all of them, he agreed with me and we had the call as scheduled and all went well.
Why am I sharing this bit with you, I wanted to make you realize that the movie is not yet over, give it your best and stay positive in adverse situations, this will lead you out as a winner.
Don’t start blaming and creating myth, this song is cursed for me, this road is bad luck avoid it, won’t wear this shirt again.
We can always plan for events, create a plan B however not for unplanned events, unplanned events are surprises thrown our way, it is us by our experience and ability to manage unplanned activities are at test.
When in deep shit, don’t get bothered, remember this is the worse and now it is going to be better forget everything and take a deep breath and take some time to think, recollect your facts and previous experience, there are no thumb rules in life.
So at the end of the day all’s well that ends well and always believe in the saying:
When the going gets tough the tough get going.
I believe you had a lovely weekend, make it your best.
To end despite all odds I believed in myself and all was right in the world.
Although we grow up with our parents chanting the lines that honesty  and truth is the best policy yet we are destined to contradict it as we grow wise.
Even today before leaving for work I asked my 6 year old daughter to be true, honest and humble.
So what happens as we grow, are these feeds baseless which we give to our children, when we as adults are aware that we need not speak the truth at office, to friends, while socializing etc. So why we are chanting this rhyme to our kids. The answer is that we want to imbibe moral values in our kids and let them decide later how to use this based on the circumstances.
Ask me personally there is no harm in it, I can say a lie to make people happy, to bring a smile on their face. People don’t like to share the truth with others unless required and the other person is not an acquaintance . You may praise the dress a distant relative of yours is wearing in a meet up, you just would not like to turn her head up on heels by saying it sucks.
This is noting strange but being smart, you create a space of respect for others, yourself and avoid conflicts.
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